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Jealous again
From: me
Date: 18 Dec 2002
Time: 18:13:28
Remote Name: 66.82.33.167
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Trying again, can't find this in the posting list.
I admit it now, I am an extremely jealous person. I didn't think I had a problem with it until my wife has really brought it to my attention ( again, as I didn't listen to her in her previous many many attempts to tell me I was very jealous and controlling ). It finally hit me this past Saturday, when she commented that I was driving her away and am close to finding out how it would be like losing her due to my jealousy. That hurt me but smacked me upside the head. We've been married for almost 9 years. I am taking steps to control myself, removing the thoughts inside my head that make me go crazy, wanting to ask detailed questions about everything she does, and prying questions like I am trying to find something that she doesn't want to tell me. I truly believe she would not cheat on me or hurt me. I don't believe I am insecure, as I am comfortable with my looks, my personality, income etc but most everywhere says that's the main reason. I think it's because I don't want to lose her and my family. The main reason for my post tonight, is I've just started trying to control myself. Today when I came home I explained to her I was feeling better about my problem, which felt good. There is one issue that is really bugging me, maybe you can help. She was married before, young for 6 yrs. Last week she called her ex husband to "catch up" some and look for someone she wanted to thank for helping her in the past. I was very upset with that. She indicated she is missing her old friends and people that knew her, and wanted to see how everyone was etc. That bothered me A LOT, and we fought over it. I don't feel keeping a connection with ex husband is a normal thing, but kind of understand where she is coming from. Again today, another call while I was at work. Should I just say that's ok, or should it really bother me and tell her I don't want her to call him any longer? He is married. Due to me trying to control myself, I said it was ok to call him, but to let me know when she does as a courtesy. Should I be ok with this??? Sorry for the long message! Thanks for the help. I am trying....
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