Relationship Books

Following an easy-to-use format that explains the issues and the techniques that can be used to resolve them, this valuable guide teaches the communication skills that couples need to thrive together using real-life examples and practical exercises. When couples are struggling in their relationship, they often know they need to be able to communicate better and resolve problems better, but they don't know how to go about it.  Couple Skills provides the techniques and skills to improving relationships.

This new edition of Passage to Intimacy is published by popular request to add more of the PAIRS powerful concepts and experiences that have been known to dramatically transform relationships. Since the first edition of Passage to Intimacy was published a number of dissertations have been written that have researched and validated the effectiveness and power of this dynamic program. In response, I have written this book to add Jealousy, Emotional Allergy, Healing the Ledger, Clarifying Expectations, and other significant understandings and experiences that when practiced, transform lives. We are all pathfinders today, working our way through uncharted territories as we seek to build and sustain loving co-equal relationships for the first time in human history. In our rapidly changing world, relationships that thrive create in us a sense of security, safety, enhanced health and well being. Most of all, love, joy and pleasure in companionship provide depth and meaning in our lives. We do not have to lose what we work so hard to achieve. We do not have to sabotage our dearest dreams. As human beings, we are all miracles capable of remarkable learning, growth and change. We can understand what went wrong in previous relationships or what is going wrong now. We can make changes if we choose to use what we learn.

In this honest, sympathetic book, marital and family therapist Robert L. Barker offers real help for men and women suffering the emotional costs of a jealous partner's suspicion and rage. Based on his extensive work with troubled couples, "The Green-Eyed Marriage" answers these and many other questions about pathological jealousy and its causes and offers practical techniques to minimize jealous confrontations and control them

It doesn't have to hurt to be in love, yet for many otherwise accomplished and confident people, romantic involvement means anxiety, insecurity, and pain. This provocative and authoritative sourcebook, filled with true-life stories and dramatic case histories, will set every reader on a path of greater self-understanding -- and increase the possibilities of finding an enduring love.

What causes jealousy? Who is more prone to jealousy--women or men? Why does jealousy sometimes lead to violence? How can you tell if you are a jealous person? Dr. Pines draws on case studies from her clinical practice, jealousy workshops, and fascinating research with more than 100 individuals and couples--including interviews with people who have committed crimes of passion. Exploring the many facets of this complex emotion, Dr. Pines discusses five psychological approaches to jealousy--covering such issues as whether jealousy is the result of unresolved childhood trauma, the dynamics within a specific relationship, or the consequence of our evolutionary nature. Romantic Jealousy offers real-life stories, simple quizzes, and an in-depth jealousy questionnaire aimed at helping readers assess their predisposition to jealousy and providing strategies to control their jealous urges. The advice offered can be applied to gay and straight couples, to those who suffer from a jealousy problem or know of a loved one who does, and for psychologists and counselors to use with their clients as a tool in therapy.
Romantic Jealousy provides us with a compelling account of the psychology of jealousy. Dr. Pines journeys into the deep recesses of the human mind and heart, exposing the dynamics of jealousy--its causes, symptoms, and danger signs--and the most effective strategies available for keeping jealousy under control.

In Trusting You Are Loved, you will discover the keys to creating partnership in relationship--the experience of being profoundly honored, listened to, appreciated, loved, and safe. This book provides a road map toward mastering the following ten Practices for Partnership, which, as Lew says, are "Simple, but not easy!"